This post is not about gay marriage.

This post is not about gay marriage.

If you didn’t see that warhead fired months ago – if you honestly hoped the biblical definition of marriage would prevail on logical grounds – then you weren’t paying attention.

This post is about my concern for Christians who are butchering our messaging on social media. Plenty of us are publicly preaching – obnoxiously in some cases – about biblical principles and platitudes like “kindness” and “grace.” Meanwhile, the vilification of Christians has intensified (especially from many enemies of the church who disingenuously claim to “believe in God”).

As long as the humanists, the atheists, and the Left (that includes all the libertarian frauds out there) believe that their intentions and their morality are more loving than the Christian ethic, they will continue believing that Christians are hateful bigots. No amount of Christian kindness is going to convince them otherwise. In fact, the louder the preaching, the louder their venom in return.

I’m constantly told there are at least several hateful Christians out there supposedly representing all of us. I’ve never met those several Christians who demonstrate hateful or oppressive attitudes toward gay people, so until I do, I’m going to continue asserting those people don’t exist. I’m not going to perpetuate that straw-man argument by verbally agreeing with its thesis and then lament how the Christian community needs to purge these ghosts.

Christians will continue not being hateful people, but don’t be discouraged when the world continues to accuse us. Certainly, we shouldn’t be deceived into thinking kindness will win hearts and minds or earn friends among those who mock us.

Proverbs 25:21-22
If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you.

When somebody asks our feelings about marriage, we don’t have to give lengthy opinions. Our individual opinions are not novel, nor are they required to be original.

We don’t have to go out of our way to apologize for the perceived discrimination that we and our Christian beliefs are not responsible for.

Nothing is more insulting, nothing draws more ire, than saying, “I’m sorry you were offended.” Sorry, I’m not sorry.

If somebody who clearly hates Christians is intentionally misrepresenting what Christianity has to say about homosexuality, we absolutely should not do their homework for them. The Bible is free online, and Sunday church doesn’t sell tickets for admission.

Often, these lying liars are more informed than they reveal, and they know in their hearts they’re libeling us. Exposing them will not embarrass them or change their minds!

I’m not discouraging any apologetics tactics. I greatly admire the prominent Christian apologists. But lay opinions, micro-blogging, and petty scripture-quoting fall tremendously short of true and effective apologetics. On issues as sensitive as gay marriage, there’s no excuse for not backing up controversial rhetoric with informed sources.

I’m also not trying to suppress anyone’s mission of grace or kindness. But frankly, right now, grace and kindness have not been the church’s problem during my generation. Truth has been our problem.

Grace is a free gift. Kindness is not only reserved to the Christian domain. Your kindness may no longer reward you in a world that hates the truth.

It’s easy to sermonize to one another about grace and kindness in this difficult trial, but promoting the unadulterated, un-sugar-coated truth will cost you.

Matthew 13:57
And they took offense at him. But Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town and in his own home.”

This post is not about gay marriage.